Good Morning Mamas!!
Lawd, it has been a while since I've written a post; life has been so busy y'all! If you don't know who I am, let me re-introduce myself; my name is DEVON, and I am NOT your average mom (AY AY AY….did you read that in Jay-Z voice, lol). I'm not going to tell you how to parent and I'm not here to judge. Honestly, we all parent differently and that's what makes us dope ass moms! I'm here to share the ups, downs, in-betweens, and most definitely the bullshit (LOL). I have three children that act exactly like me, and I'm telling y'all it's GHETTO! But here I am sharing my journey with y'all because what's more fun than being a parent? Knowing that a million other mamas are losing their shit just like me, and believe me, I say that in the most humbling way!
So what have I been up to since my last post (go on and click the bold print and check it out)? Well, for starters, ya girl graduated with her BA in Social and Criminal Justice, and she did it Summa Cum Laude; yes, I’m bragging on myself! Baby, these three kids and husband haven’t made it easy, but I did it, and you better believe I am celebrating! When I started, I set the goal to graduate honors because my dream is to attend law school and become an attorney, and ya girl is about to begin studying for her LSATS (keep me in prayer, tests give me anxiety)! I have always wanted to make a difference in the world, and I think we can all agree it starts with the judicial system. All I’m saying is in the next 3/4 years, I’ll be saying I did it, and I’m getting ready to take the bar (mama speak your dreams and goals into existence)!! Anyway, on top of finishing school and leaving my job, I have also been in the process of moving, and y’all, let me tell you, I HATE IT! I know I should be used to it by now, but these last four years, y’all the battles I’ve overcome, this is a different type of move. Mamas, this is GROWTH, happiness, peace of mind, and me just willing to accept what is and relinquish control, and believe me, none of that has been easy! This move has drained me, which made me write this post in the first place.
I was sitting in Golden Corral with my family and realized I am burnt out, snappy, and probably not the most pleasant person to be around right now, which usually isn't me because I'm either cracking jokes or laughing at my own jokes (fun fact: I swear I missed my calling as a comedian) and if that isn't a red flag, baby I barely ate!! If you know me, then you know I would never pass up the opportunity to eat (insert your laughing emoji). I was so exhausted I wanted to cry because I had been going non-stop for the past two in half months. If I'm honest, I can write all day about self-care and how important it is to take time for yourself, but that doesn't always mean I'm doing it. Yesterday was one of those days where I had to put things into perspective again and realize I am not superwoman I am human. Ladies, it's okay to be tired and just shut down! My husband has been telling me to sit down and relax for weeks, but I don't. I just keep going and going until I end up like I did last night, tired as fuck and ready to box all my kids, including my husband. Mamas, why is it we choose not to stop and relax? Is it because we feel like we are the only ones that can get things done, or do we convince ourselves just one more thing and we will stop, and then that next thing turns into another thing? If you are guilty of this, say I. Baby I I I and for the people in the back I (LOL).
Y'all, why are we like this?!? I don't have an educated answer, but if I were to give one, I would gather it's just what moms do, but mamas, we got to chill tf out! Let me ask you this what will happen if we don't finish the next thing? Will the world stop? Will you be a "bad mom"? Will it become a life-changing event? The answer is NO! If you're reading this right now and are tired like me, guess what? SIT YO ASS DOWN AND RELAX! Because what? It's OKAY TO BE TIRED! Mama, so often we pride ourselves on doing it all, and to be frank, not ya husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, or kids notice it let alone understand all that we do as moms, so I'm going to ask you this, who are you burning yourself out for? Let me tell you something, mama; your kids are OKAY! I know we have trained ourselves to believe that if things aren't "perfect" or seem to be "perfect," then we haven't done our job, but that is not the case. I don't have all the answers but from my experience as a working mom and a stay-at-home mom, respectfully just sit tf down. Don't gasp; let me explain. When I was working, I would be exhausted by the time I got home, and instead of coming home and taking time to myself, I would come home and try to tackle mommy duties and to note I was miserable doing it. It's okay to come home do a few things, but mama, don't try to do everything; I promise your world won't fall apart. For the stay-at-home mamas because I've been there chile, with one toddler and two in diapers. I know how draining and stressful it is but let me tell you something don't ever let anyone say, "But you are home all day, why do you need a break" the individuals that say that couldn't last 8 hours in your shoes! I say all this to say STOP BURNING YOURSELF OUT; there is no reward for that! The next time your body is telling you to rest, I need you to listen; if not for you, do it for your kids.
Mama, today I challenge you to sit yo ass down! I know you probably think what type of challenge is this, but you would be surprised how hard it is for us to accomplish this, but I got faith in you; I know you can do it! As always, peace and blessings!