Heyyyy Mama!!!! Happy Friday, the weekend is here!!! I hope this week has been good to you and stress-free. With the kids enjoying summer vacation and no virtual learning I know it feels like we can finally breathe! So now that we have regained a couple of hours of sanity, let's talk about our self-care routine!!! I know I have mentioned self-care multiple times in my blog posts, but let's be honest, are we taking time for ourselves? If you are pondering over that answer, I am going to make it easy for you! I am inserting a self-care questionnaire (click on the bold print). This questionnaire is quick and simple, and once completed, it prompts you to make a contract with yourself to be mindful of your health and well-being. If you're reading this post, you must know how vital your self-care routine is. For starters, whatever guilt you have about putting yourself first, I need you to dispose of it! And if you are struggling with it, ask yourself, why do I feel bad about taking care of myself? The answer is obvious, YOU SHOULDN'T, and this post is your friendly reminder! I can tell you it has taken me a long time to get to the point of putting myself first. How many can relate to putting everyone, including children, family, and friends, before yourself? For the mamas that instantly feel guilty about putting themselves before their children, DON'T! I promise it's a wasted emotion. Before you jump down my throat, I do not mean tossing your children to the side and forgetting about their needs. What I am saying is, you are already providing the essentials for your children, but what about you?
Do you have days where you feel completely drained? I know I do. About two years ago, I finally realized I needed to make myself a priority at least once a week, and I started planning every Friday as a self-care day. Whether it was journaling, watching my favorite Netflix show, shopping, listening to music, playing in makeup, taking myself out for lunch, or taking a nap, mama, I did something for ME! As moms, we tend to just power through, but through personal experience, I realized that was the quickest way to a mental breakdown! If you haven't had a mommy breakdown, consider yourself lucky! I think we've all heard the saying, "You can't pour from an empty cup," and although used more often to refer to friendships or relationships, it goes for family as well. How many of you are running on fumes but still trying to fulfill your mommy/wife duties? Have there been times you've come home from work, and the house is a mess, and you have to make dinner and get everyone settled before you can tend to your needs? Or are you a stay-at-home mom where you are constantly picking up after your children while trying to maintain your sanity, but when your significant other comes home, you are then tending to their needs? Or are you a single mom working two jobs trying to hold down the house and be there for your child/children? No matter which category you fit in, your self-care is crucial!!!
Mama, we are the glue that holds shit together, but you can't do it if you are not at your best! I know you're thinking, how do I do this. I've been there, so I understand, but I finally came to terms with choosing to be burnt out or choosing myself, and mama I chose myself! We will always have things to do; it's inevitable, but it's almost like a reboot when you take time for yourself. Personally, when I have my me day, I am in better condition the next day to complete my never-ending to-do list (LOL). I've said it before and I'm going to say it again, mama, YOUR HAPPINESS MATTERS, and when you are happy, it reflects in your parenting. If you know me, then you know I love a good quote! I think they are inspirational and can help motivate anyone. Jean Bolen has this quote (posted above), and I think we can all use this as a reminder, so get a pen out, write this quote down or save the image to your phone; and ask yourself what does this quote mean to me? For me, it's a constant reminder to take time for myself and do things that bring me happiness. I believe as a mom; it is so easy to let our life be run by everyone else's needs while disregarding our own, but I'm here to remind you it's a balancing act! So today, I dare you to put yourself first! I challenge you to do something that brings that sparkle back in your eye and set time aside once a week to feed your soul! I know it will be challenging at first, but you can do this! As always, peace and blessings!