Updated: Apr 23, 2021
How y'all doing?!? I know it's been a couple of weeks since I've posted, but I'm back and ready to offer you the advice you didn't ask for and entertain y'all with my excellent sense of humor!! To be honest, y'all, I felt overwhelmed with work, school, and mom life, but I went to visit my sister and have a little me time and now I feel rejuvenated! First off, I want to remind you, amazing mamas, about the Mother's Day Giveaway that I am doing! I have posted the giveaway rules on my FB and IG page; If you haven't checked out my, She's Not Your Average Mom FB and IG page, go on and check it out so you can stay up to date! The giveaway is something you don't want to miss! Now that I got my little advertisement out let's talk about being overwhelmed and listening to what our bodies are telling us!
How many of you are feeling overwhelmed as you are reading this? I'm going to let you in on a little secret I've learned over the past couple of years if you are tired, overwhelmed, or stressed out, baby, you have to STOP and BREATHE! I know you are probably thinking, but I do take breaks, but if your breaks consist of you strategizing a plan to get your to-do list done, then you are not taking a break. I know we live in a world where as mothers, we feel we have to power through everything, whether it be work, home life, or just the everyday task of being a woman! I'm here to tell you to cut that shit TF out! Mama, listen to your body when you are tired, and I don't mean just physically; I mean emotionally, mentally, and spiritually! I promise it will make a difference! As women, we suffer from the complex of "knowing it all" well, baby, I'm here to tell you NOBODY; I MEAN NOBODY KNOWS IT ALL! We are learning every day, and today I want you to understand what your body is telling you. I'm telling y’all many of my power through moments have caused many breakdowns over the years for me. And it wasn't until I learned to listen to my body that I finally chilled TF out.
Your body will let you know when you are tired, but you have to be willing to listen and acknowledge the signs. For the longest, I ignored all the signs, and I am telling you I was burnt out because I would continually lie to myself; if I finish this last thing, I will relax, and that was a lie because once I finished that, I would start something else. It wasn't until I had a break down on Christmas eve crying in the corner because I was so stressed out and trying to keep up with everything that I realized I can't do it all, nor do I want to anymore! I had set the standard so high for myself that I was burning myself out! And my toxic trait of perfectionism and wanting everything to be in place has worn off on my oldest and mamas; he be stressing me out, but he learned this from me. So mama, when they tell you your children pick up on your habits, believe me, they do without even trying. My two youngest take after their father very mellow, and they always tell me, "UGH Mommy, it doesn't have to be perfect." I finally realized there will always be things on my to-do list, and there is no point in stressing over it. As a mom, the list is never-ending, and as much as we would love to finish everything in one shot, it also means you will burn yourself out!
I'm telling y'all I'm still learning. There are many times my daughter comes to me and asks me if I'm okay. She always says, "Mommy, you look tired, you're always working, you need to take a break and relax." I'm telling y'all it gets me every time my 8-year-old sees that I need a break; why can't I? I'm going to tell you why, because I spend most of my time trying to perfect THEIR childhood (y'all hear how crazy that sounds). As parents we spend most of their childhood wanting to give them the best of the best, and there is nothing wrong with that, but let me tell you what they really want, they want your time, love, attention, and memories. Mama, if you are stressed out, tired, overwhelmed all the time, and refuse to stop and take a break, you're not only hurting yourself, your kids get the brunt of your frustration. If you don't believe me, ask them. I ask my kids from time to time what I can do to be a better parent, and they always say spend more time with them. I'm not going to lie; I feel like shit when they say it, but it's real! How many mamas can relate to this? If you can't, I need you to drop a comment below; let us know what you do to stay level-headed and not allow the stressors of life to knock you down; I know a lot of us mamas could use the advice! And mama, if you are feeling overwhelmed, tired, or stressed out, take a break. I promise things won't fall apart if you decide to take a moment to yourself and breathe!
So today, mama, I challenge you to listen to your body and if you feel overwhelmed, TAKE A BREAK, A REAL ONE!!! As always, peace and blessings!