Good Evening Mama!!!
We are officially one week into the New Year! How is it going? Are you sticking to the mantra New Year, New Me, New Goals? I'd be lying if I said I am. Can I keep it real with you? Every December 31st, we set new goals, we want to be this new evolved person, and nine times out of ten, we set a weight loss goals to lose 20 lbs in a month. Let's be honest; we know that goal is unattainable unless the food source is air (LOL). Before I deep dive into this conversation, I want to be clear; I don't think we shouldn't set New Year's resolutions; I think we need to make them obtainable and within reason. We have to stop applying so much pressure on ourselves and take one step at a time.
How many of you have this overwhelming feeling on New Year's Eve that you have to change your lives on the first? For as long as I can remember, up until two years ago, I would set unattainable goals. First being, weight loss. Weight loss is the devil for me, but I have set the goal every year, and do y'all know what I do come January 1st? I sit on my ass until damn near spring; laugh if you want, but it's the got damn truth. So how do you make a weight loss goal obtainable? I set smaller goals; it's like a stepping stone. No more, I want to lose twenty pounds by this date; let's say, I will start by working out twice a week and build from there, or maybe you want to change your eating habits; whichever you decide, ease yourself into it. As you continue through the months, start incorporating new steps, celebrate your accomplishments. Setting your goals is not about how fast you can achieve them but about developing an objective and maintaining consistency to reach that goal.
I remember when I launched this blog in 2020; if you could've seen the goals I set for myself, they were COMPLETELY UNATTAINABLE! I wanted so many followers by a specific date, I wanted to post a blog every week, and I expected sales to be through the roof with zero experience; imagine that (LOLl). I'm not afraid to tell y'all I had no idea what the fuck I was thinking or doing. I know achieving my goals required consistency, but to be honest, I was not consistent last year, and I have nobody to blame but myself. While I dwelled on not reaching the number of subscribers/followers for my blog, I missed the opportunity to celebrate the small achievements. I invested so much time in what I didn't achieve that I allowed myself to get discouraged, which affected my motivation. Mama, we are human, and setbacks happen, but never let it discourage you to the point you stop believing in yourself! If you want to launch a business, do it. If you want to become an influencer, do it! If you want to go back to school and finish that degree, do it! Be your biggest fan and do it unapologetically! Sometimes we are so hard on ourselves we forget to celebrate the milestones, which are just as important as the overall goal. Remember, you may not be where you want to be, but you are where you're supposed to be (read that again).
If you take anything from this post, I want you to know it's okay to be working on the same goal you set for yourself last year. Who said the deadline has to be December 31st? Society? Society does not dictate the timeline of your goals; YOU DO! Let 2022 be the year of consistency! And most importantly, celebrate your small accomplishments! So for some, it may be New Year, New Me, New Goals, but for me, it's New Year, Same Me, Same Goals, More Consistency. Happy New Year, Mama, and cheers to obtaining your goals! As always, peace and blessings.